Before I go anywhere with this blog post I highly recommend Amy Schumer’s Netflix special Growing as well as following Rachel and Dave Hollis on Instagram. They do a great job on rewriting societies expectations on what it is to be a mom.
As I was sitting watching Amy Schumer’s new special on Netflix, I realized that she was right, y’all lied about how hard it is to do this mom thing. In this past year I have seen more and more moms coming forward and being upfront about this real hard thing called “mom hood.” The focus of this post is mom shame and mom guilt; something we deal with every day.
This past weekend I had my first full day without Levi. Boy oh boy did I feel the guilt of leaving him and having a day to myself. Never forget, selfcare is important! The healthier you are the happier the babe is! This isn’t just exclusively for SAHM moms, this applies to any woman with a little one.
I don’t know about you, but when someone thinks they have a say in our journey as a mom, it isn’t helpful and just adds additional stress and leaves me questioning if I am doing it right.
From the moment you announce your pregnancy the guilt and shame coming flooding in. And you get questions like “are you going to birth naturally?” or “co-sleep?” “vaccinate?” Then you get the wild questions such as “Private or public school?” “Whoa there Shannon I am only 20 weeks pregnant.”
Other guilt comes from the idea that we need to have our homes spotless and we don’t deserve self-care. I feel guilty on days when I just need to marathon Friends and leave the dishes in the sink. There should be a trending hashtag for mom self-care.
In all honesty, I don’t usually pick up the toys and do the dishes until after Levi is asleep, and its usually accompanied by a glass of wine or ice cream. And it’s okay, because I get to spend all day with my kid, who could care less if the dishes are done or the laundry is folded. Remember our littles ones are not going to love us any less because we don’t keep our house spotless.
Society has put so much pressure on us to be this perfect mom and when we don’t fit that mold, we experience mom guilt and mom shame.